WHAT LOOKS AFTER US - Nov 2018 - reposted Dec 2025
My reply to original post on Ian's blog
Ian, I don’t respond to what you write but I react to it. So here is my reaction.
Does life come to us or do we go out and fetch it?
I lived with Larry for 59 years, we adapted to each other but maintained inner experience which was unknown to the other. When I read what Larry wrote – his journal, his book, his autobiography, his letters – I realize how separate his inner experience was from what I knew of him. And, of course, I knew that he knew little of my thoughts and feeling from my perspective. As much as we might have shared experience, it meant something different to each of us. I like to say, ‘The darkness cannot impinge upon the light;’ in the same way another’s consciousness cannot impinge upon our own.
Life comes to us like a series of cars on a train – multiple cars but one train – and there are others on the train with us. But what life means to me I have to fetch; that is the part that is unknowable to anyone but God or providence who arranged it.
